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Self Actualization

Self Actualization

In My Mind: The Tyranny of the Mind

Published by communitypublishingabq@gmail.com on August 1, 2020 Respond

In a previous article, I briefly addressed what I call “The Tyranny Of The Mind”, that internal voice filled with doubts and insecurities that constantly threatens to take away one’s true power. My main point is that true power does not rest in the hands of those to whom power is typically attributed.  No doubt the wielders of power in the world have the ability to exert a profound impact on the lives of many, to take away freedoms, even to end lives. But the power that I am speaking of is a quality of being that no amount of force or abuse of so-called power, can touch or take away. 

Surviving Atrocity

It is an internal source of strength that stands solid, no matter the circumstances.  It is the kind of strength exhibited by such individuals as Victor Frankl, a survivor of the Holocaust and the author of /Man’s Search For Meaning./ He tells of his experience of having everything taken away and being imprisoned in the concentration camps, but one thing remained –  “the last of the human freedoms – to chose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.  And there were always choices to make.  Every day, every hour, offered the opportunity to make a decision, a decision which determined whether you would or would not submit to those powers which threatened to rob you of your very self, your inner freedom.”  He went on to say, “man’s inner strength may raise him above his outward fate.”

Untapped Power

It is easy, in times like these, to see the threatening external forces of tyranny out there,  preparing to come and snatch away our freedoms.  What is much more difficult to see are the internal forces of tyranny that are, day in and day out, mounting their assault on our own true inner power.  Those forces take on many forms, often times showing up in very subtle ways that fool us into believing the “propaganda” of our own disempowerment, of our victimhood to all manner of circumstances, injustices and unfairness levied upon us by the world, or the perceived limitations of our situation and environment. But, the truth is, there exists within our minds untapped power to achieve far more than what we imagine.  

In my mind, I envision a world where individuals, worldwide, engage in the difficult work of building up their inner strength, overthrowing the Tyranny Of The Mind, and seizing their true power, such that the scales of justice, peace, cooperation, and freedom tip in favor of an unparalleled level of human achievement. 

Impossible Dreams

In my mind, it is only through individual self empowerment that we will forever throw off the chains of external tyranny and abuse of power, and come together to form a more perfect union – a union of truly empowered individuals working toward a common good and the achievement of a universal harmony of being and doing.  Yes I know, many will brush this away as mere fantasy, as utopian wishful thinking.  But that is nothing more than the propaganda of those ruled by fear, mistrust, and insecurity. I know it’s possible, because I see evidence all around that whatever we can think of, dream up, or imagine, we can accomplish. The end result may not always look exactly like we expected, but look around you.  Our world is filled with things that once were but fantasy and “impossible dreams”.   

Get Up! Stand Up!

So, what will it be? Will you ignite the burning fire within yourself to rise up and overthrow the tyrant in your own mind? It will take work. It will require constant daily practice. It will demand of you that you not give way to the soul sucking distractions all around you, but instead that you get up and stand up for your power to be and do what only you can be and do. Only in this way will we achieve the “impossible dream” of a world that benefits all.

Get Up, Stand Up! – Bob Marley & the Wailers

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Remember to always Get up! Stand Up!
Rev Le Rev – Sun Journey Enterprise – rev@sunjourney.us
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The Lost and Found: Self-Deception & the Need for Self-Actualization 3

Published by communitypublishingabq@gmail.com on July 14, 2015 Respond

Self-Deception & the Need for Self-Actualization by Chessa Peak

Part 3 of a 3 part series. Read part 1 here and part 2 here. 

As humans we make a variety of excuses to justify the bad behaviors that keep us in stasis. It is easier to remain in familiar life cycle than to face the unknown. This could possibly explain why a battered women will stay in an abusive relationships. The need to hold ourselves accountable couldn’t be of more importance in society and the individual today.

The mind and our emotions have the power to consume us in repetitive thoughts and feelings. One minute our emotional mind could be fixed in a state of longing and the next minute you could be thinking about making a sandwich. It is the mind’s disposition to be flighty and chaotic. It is important then to understand that we must hold ourselves accountable to training our minds and safe guarding our inner peace.

Intelligently Emotional

Self Deception and Self Actualization by Chessa PeakEmotional intelligence is, “Knowing ones emotions, managing emotions, motivating oneself, recognizing emotions in others, & handling relationships.” (Goleman p.43). People who understand their emotions as they arise can make better decisions for their lives. Through conscious acknowledge of our emotions we are capable of transcending beyond their sometimes debilitating grasp. An example of this may be the Buddhist teaching of quieting the mind through meditation, acknowledging the emotion when you see it arise and allowing it to graciously fall away in order to be fully present in this exact moment.

Managing emotions is the ability to embrace resilience and move beyond debilitating emotional strife. One could relate managing emotions as having to focus diligently on your trade while experiencing emotional distress at home. Motivation comes from the ability to maintain self-discipline and not act immediately on wants. By removing emotional reactivity one could better focus on what motivates positive change. What a person wants may not always be what is in their best interests. The ability to recognize emotions in others is self-awareness through empathy. Through empathy we are capable of experiencing life simultaneously with those we wish to strengthen connections with. The term metacognition means “to refer to an awareness of thought process” (Goleman).

Through metacognition, self-discipline and personal accountability it is possible to correct negative thoughts and behaviors. Through patience, temperance and empathy is it possible to correct our emotionally reactive natures and embrace emotional intelligence. Change is possible and it is theorized that it takes “32 days to change a habit” (OnCourse p.147) if the individual is willing to hold themselves accountable and has a sincere desire for change. The stronger one has a desire to change, the more motivated they will be to holding themselves accountable.

Views from Within

Despite how we may see ourselves, we are all very delicate creatures. The resources to pull ourselves out of dysfunctional living are all around us. With great discoveries in neuroscience, behavioral science, & technology being revealed more and more every day, we as a civilization have more information and tools available at our disposal than ever before in history. Through kindred spirits we have the gift of companionship and communication in order to grow together.

Without acknowledging the need to become self-aware and self-actualizing, we will remain disconnected from ourselves and left seeking happiness outside of ourselves. Awakening to how we destroy ourselves can be a very painful experience but one of the most beneficial and expansive experiences of our lives. This process should be addressed within the individual and should be viewed through the internal eyes of compassion and empathy for one’s self. Acting out of self-love Self-Deception and Self-Actualization by Chessa Peakwould involve asking yourself in every decision you make, “What would a person who loves themselves do?” (Scott).

To be completely honest with ourselves takes tremendous courage as it may require a person to change everything about how they live to attain true and lasting happiness. Self-deceit can be overcome through self-actualization. Happiness is possible, it’s all a matter of how important it is to the individual.

References for the Lost and Found articles can be found here.
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Self Deception and self Actualization Chessa Peak has been in New Mexico since the age of 4 and is an honorary New Mexican. A bartender of over 10 years in the Duke City, musician, entreprenuer, and current student at CNM, Chessa is now currently working towards her own non-profit group that will support literacy, art and music programs for Albuquerque residents and her immediate community. Having come through a negative past, her writings deeply reflect the nature of her personal struggles in an attempt to help others overcome their personal battles.

Community Publishing brings local artists of all mediums together in creative collaborations for distribution as multimedia books while promoting literacy in our communities. #JoinOurCommunity at http://communitypublishing.org We are proud to be Marketers for the Rail Yards Market.

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The Lost and Found: Self-Deception & the Need for Self-Actualization 2

Published by communitypublishingabq@gmail.com on July 7, 2015 Respond

Self-Deception & the Need for Self-Actualization by Chessa Peak

Part 2 of a 3 part series, read part 1 here

self-deception and selfThrough conditioning and habit, people learn from each other what is acceptable behavior and what is not. When involved in a humorous story, the parties involved will laugh together. Similarly, when involved with dysfunctional thinking the tendency is to be dysfunctional. The environments people place themselves in dictate their behavior. How we behave in relation to others can also be seen in examples of groupthink psychology.

The idea that like attracts like is also the basis for the concept of the law of attraction. The connections we seek out, whether in groups or individuals, are validations of ourselves offered through the reflection of ourselves in others. When we seek this validation of self externally, it is possible to become a person who seeks their happiness in those around them and not from within. This is especially true for people with low self-esteem or low self-worth. Because they are not happy with themselves, they look for their happiness in others. Through repetition, destructive behaviors become habit.

self-deception and self-actualizationApathy, unwillingness, and excuse making exist due to a lack of sufficient motivation. One then needs to define what motivation means to the individual. Perhaps there is a disconnect in intimacy between two people because one is not properly motivating the other in a loving manner. Like a child not getting what they want, it throws a tantrum. When our wants are not meet we behave in ways that normally we would never act. Grasping for attention, becoming resentful when we don’t get what we want. Which in turn will cause a partner to withdraw their affection. Which in turn causes the other to become more resentful.

Adversely, it is just as common to force an interaction the does not exist or to read more into a situation based on our emotional wants dictating our needs for love, loneliness, communication, affection, and reciprocation such as in the situation above between two lovers. One partner may make a reasonable request that is never met. The person making the request will then try other ways of convincing the partner that they should meet this request. If sufficient motivation is not there for the need to be meet then it will be ignored. This could be because the other person genuinely is not concerned with the need to satisfy any other needs than their own. Once this conclusion is determined the question then should be asked, “Is this situation really good for you?”.

Once locked in the cycle of negative thoughts, we become consumed with doubt, fear, aggression, and aversive tendencies when dealing with the reality of our lives. So what then are some things that contribute to this kind of negative psychological conditioning? In American society, there is no emphasis to understand that negative occurrences are a part of life. On the contrary, we are taught to “let the good times roll” and that not feeling good is bad. This understanding that good feelings should not end has caused a need to be excessive in what feels good.

Excessive Positivity

We immerse ourselves in what feels good even if it is bad for us such as with alcoholism or drug addiction. Physiological conditioning as a result of how we were raised also influences the decisions we make as adults. Subconsciously we are drawn towards people who mirror what we are comfortable or familiar with. Patients who suffer from physiological disorders such as chronic pain, may experience severe mood swings as a result of their condition as well.

References for the Lost and Found articles can be found here.
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Self Deception and self Actualization Chessa Peak has been in New Mexico since the age of 4 and is an honorary New Mexican. A bartender of over 10 years in the Duke City, musician, entreprenuer, and current student at CNM, Chessa is now currently working towards her own non-profit group that will support literacy, art and music programs for Albuquerque residents and her immediate community. Having come through a negative past, her writings deeply reflect the nature of her personal struggles in an attempt to help others overcome their personal battles.

Community Publishing brings local artists of all mediums together in creative collaborations for distribution as multimedia books while promoting literacy in our communities. #JoinOurCommunity at http://communitypublishing.org We are proud to be Marketers for the Rail Yards Market.

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The Lost and Found: Self-Deception & the Need for Self-Actualization

Published by communitypublishingabq@gmail.com on June 30, 2015 Respond

The Lost and Found: Self-Deception & the Need for Self-Actualization by Chessa Peak

Part 1 of 3 part series

Self Deception and Self Actualization by Chessa Peak

According to Merriam-Webster, the term self-deceit is defined as “dishonest behavior meant to fool or trick yourself”. Though the problem of self-deception is rarely publically addressed, the benefits of talking about this relatively undiscussed issue could assist many in seeing the importance of self-actualization. The concept of self-actualization may be familiar to some and completely foreign to others. Acting in accordance with self-awareness is a life skill that many may be searching for to gain lasting happiness and inner peace. So then one must ask themselves the question, “What does it mean to be self-actualizing?” The term self-actualize as defined by Merriam-Webster is “to realize fully one’s potential”. This paper will discuss the consequences of self-deceit and some of the ways people deceive themselves as well as the benefits and need to embrace the concept of self-actualization.

People lie to themselves and each other every day. By acting out of character in order to impress the opposite sex, to lying about personal achievements in order be viewed with admiration, to staying in an unhealthy relationship and rationalizing the ways we believe it to be love, we all lie to ourselves. “All forms of lying—including white lies meant to spare the feelings of others—are associated with poorer-quality relationships” Self Deception and Self Actualization by Chessa Peak(Shermer). One could argue then that the need to lie stems from a deep need to be ok, to be accepted, or that we are better than what we actually feel internally. When we do not act in the best interest of what is relevant and important to ourselves we begin to betray who we are. We rationalize reasons to stay in situations that are not beneficial to our well-being. We tell ourselves we’re ok when we are not. By denying the importance of yourself to yourself, a sense of dissonance and a feeling of being at disharmony with one’s self can grow into a spiral of self-defeating behaviors and attitudes with no seeming end. When a person acts against what they believe is right for them, an internal tension is born. Through self-deceit this tension can manifest as resentment, fear, anger, excuse making, blaming, aversion, and self-hatred. As humans we all learn from the time we’re born to deceive in order to get what we want such as a baby crying when it thinks a parent is near in order to be shown attention. It’s natural to lie but as humans we possess the conscious ability to lie to greater or lesser degrees. So, at what point does self-deceit become self-betrayal?

It is when we begin to believe half-truths, “messages that conceal the whole truth and withhold pieces of information to minimize effect.”(Guthrie) that we begin to betray ourselves. One example of this may be justifying a person’s dishonorable actions against you because you have made a Self Deception and Self Actualization by Chessa Peakdecision to stay in a relationship with them. One could tell themselves, “It’s just the way they are.” rather than insisting on proper treatment that is reasonable and right for them. Another example would be a woman who comes off as angry all the time to her mate. If the woman’s needs are not being meet despite her best attempts, she is living out of harmony with herself because she is living a half truth. This kind of internal unrest will grow into further resentments until the situation is resolved either through separation or mutual acknowledgment and determination to work together to correct the situation. Recognizing the importance of maintaining personal integrity is one way to correct the damage caused by self-betraying thoughts and actions. When you fail to maintain your integrity the effects of self-betrayal will wear deep tracks into all facets of life and can contribute to depression, PTSD, and abusive tendencies. Self-betrayal inevitable leads a person to stop trusting their own ability to make sound decisions for them self. Students are taught that some of the most effective ways of learning are visually and through rhythm and repetition. It is no wonder when we live in dysfunctional environments we become what we keep with.

References for the Lost and Found articles can be found here.

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Self Deception and self Actualization Chessa Peak has been in New Mexico since the age of 4 and is an honorary New Mexican. A bartender of over 10 years in the Duke City, musician, entreprenuer, and current student at CNM, Chessa is now currently working towards her own non-profit group that will support literacy, art and music programs for Albuquerque residents and her immediate community. Having come through a negative past, her writings deeply reflect the nature of her personal struggles in an attempt to help others overcome their personal battles.

Community Publishing brings local artists of all mediums together in creative collaborations for distribution as multimedia books while promoting literacy in our communities. #JoinOurCommunity at http://communitypublishing.org We are proud to be Marketers for the Rail Yards Market.

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