Valentine’s Day by Pan Bourcier Hidalgo

​It is highly appropriate on Valentine’s Day to want to feel loved and accepted. At the core of our beings I believe that we all want to love and be loved. Well I am going to tell you about something that I learned recently about love. I always thought that loving another person would open up their heart when actually loving another person opened up my heart.

​I cannot tell you how much of a relief it was to realize this. (I can’t take all the credit though, Matt Kahn’s teachings give me a lot of guidance) It has been so liberating because of course you want someone to love you back but realizing that you are going to feel love whether or not that person decides to mirror it back is a wonderful feeling. We are only ever giving love that we have generated within ourselves. When someone does not mirror our own love back to us it is only their inability to open their heart. I am not going to say I am the expert on unconditional love or that I feel that way all the time. However, I can tell you that my heart feels excited to be liberated in loving whomever it wants to and not having to worry about any kind of reciprocation.

​It feels so good to offer love to people and give it away like candy. It is the most healing thing in the world to have someone love you without asking for anything in return. It has taken me a long time to realize that my big heart can just give away love whenever and to whoever it wants. Loving others no matter their response is a form of loving yourself. Sure it feels great to just focus all your love inward but focusing it out is the same thing. To truly not expect anything in return is a magical place to be and I may not be there all the way yet but somehow I don’t think it’s going to take very long for my mind to catch up to my heart.

*Read more of my series Pan’s Labyrinth here
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Pan Bourcier Hidalgo is a Dancer who is originally from Albuquerque, New Mexico. Her blog series, Pan’s Labyrinth, discusses Self-Discovery and Personal Evolution.

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